Disability is such a scary word as portrayed by the media.  We tend to picture a person in a wheelchair, or a person with a seeing eye dog trying to cross the street; but the truth is, 1 in 5 Americans have some sort of disability.  Many of the people that we interact with on a daily basis are dealing with some sort of disability, be it seen or unseen.  The stigma that being disabled means that you will somehow live a less fulfilling life, is a complete myth.  Many wheelchair users, prosthetic users, hearing, and vision impaired people are leading extraordinary lives, and enjoying great careers.  Dating can be equally as enjoyable if you learn to date with an open mind.

Any relationship is doomed to fail without open communication, that is why asking questions is important.  Gain an understanding of the type of disability a person has, the answer to your question might me simpler, and less complex than what you’ve imagined.  Don’t assume, show respect by being direct.  Similar disabilities may use different accommodations, for example one person who is def may use sign language, another may prefer lip-reading and CART translation.  One person with a spinal cord injury may require complete assistance, while a person with a different level of injury, may only want assistance when requested.

Don’t fall into the trap of wondering what my friends and family will think, most likely if you have found a person that you are happy with, they will be happy for you.  Taking time to build a strong relationship before bringing extended family members in, is one way to avoid an awkward first time meeting.  Avoid thrusting a love interest into a large family gathering where they may be inundated with questions.  Meeting friends and family can be scary enough, try hosting a small dinner at home when you’re ready to incorporate others.

Just relax, and be yourself. The first person that you meet might not be Mr. or Mrs. Right, but  you might begin a friendship that may last a lifetime.